CCTV news program "squatting youth depression": care for children's delicate and sensitive spiritual world
October 10 this year is the 33rd World Mental Health Day. A report shows that the total prevalence of mental disorders among Chinese children and adolescents is 17.5%. Not long ago, CCTV News "Relativity" program has released "squatting youth depression" related interviews, by the netizen's widespread concern.
Many netizens and their parents, who have had similar experiences, wrote their Many netizens and their parents, who have had similar experiences, wrote their stories and questions on the #CCTV news message board - Why is depression at a younger age? Children say they are depressed and don't want to go to school, are they really sick? What should parents do when their children refuse to communicate ......
The column "Relativity" invites authoritative experts in the industry, Zheng Yi, chief expert of child psychiatry at Beijing Anding Hospital affiliated with Capital Medical University, and Qiao Zhihong, Party Secretary of the Department of Psychology at Beijing Normal University and Secretary General of the National Advisory Committee on Students' Mental Health Work, to conduct a live interactive session to answer questions for netizens. These questions made us realize more deeply that every delicate and sensitive mental world should be understood and cared for.
What is the difference between a depressed mood and depression?
Human emotions are constantly fluctuating. Experts Qiao Zhihong emphasized that everyone will normally have called depressed mood, when you encounter some setbacks, such as the death of a loved one, love lost, the test did not do well ...... experience a sense of loss, there will be sad, depressed depressed mood, this is a normal depressed mood; and "depression " is a mental illness, the main characteristics of a sustained low mood, loss of interest or motivation for things you usually love, low self-evaluation, negative words and deeds, and so on.
Why is depression trending at a younger age?
Many young netizens believe that the reason is that "parents can't see their children's emotions". But on the other hand, many parents also expressed their own confusion.
Today's relatively affluent living conditions do not mean that all the needs of children can be met. Expert Zheng Yi said that after the subsistence solution, what children need most is the need for friendship. Once upon a time, children living in the compound, you chase me, play collective, competitive games, in the process of playing will encounter frustration, can not beat the practice, practice will exceed you, really can not match, know how to overcome difficulties.
Most of today's children are in a captive mode, as soon as they reach the age of being put into the society by their parents, facing the sudden unfamiliar environment will be harmful to the young psyche.
There are three needs that need to be met for a person to grow up healthily: the first is autonomy, to be able to do a lot of things on one's own; the second is competence, so that the child can feel that he or she can be successful in what he or she is doing; and the third is a sense of belonging, whereby the child has the feeling of being loved and tolerated. Many children today are spiritually deprived of these three needs while being fully materially satisfied.
These reactions, are they signs of depression?
Expert Qiao Zhihong said that when the environment changes, this stage of the child's change is clearly a psychological reaction, at best, psychogenic reaction, not a serious depression. But if further development may be prone to separation anxiety, with parents' education, protection aspects.
The main reason why a child has such a problem on his first day of school is that he has gone from a completely undisciplined and undemanding home environment to a highly disciplined school, which is a very big challenge for the child, a process called socialization.
As a parent, it is important to understand the child first. When the child feels different at school from the accommodating environment he used to have at home, his sense of security is threatened, and he experiences a sense of fear and a strong rejection of the environment. At this point, parents have to express their understanding so that the child is willing to talk to them about what happened at school; secondly, parents have to strongly express that teachers and classmates actually love you, but they love you in a different way than your mother does, and that it is a different kind of way that is beneficial to you.
What if parents and children can't communicate with each other?
A parent-child dilemma has been raised on the #CentralTV news message boards, and it's gotten quite a few responses.
Through the replies of netizens, I have distilled some key words: "think deeply," "observe," "understand," "feel ", as the experts gave a phrase: "be both a parent and a friend".
In the column of "Relativity", there was such a clip: in a summer camp formed by a family of depression patients, the parents made a "game": the counselor asked a dozen parents to say, in order, a sentence that they often say to their children at different ages. From "Mommy loves you" to "Hurry up and do your homework", you will find that since elementary school, none of the parents positively conveyed their feelings to their children, but more often exerted their own anxiety. This clip resonates with many people.
Experts said that the netizen mother is really not easy, in fact, parents are projected on the social pressure, unconsciously will be passed on to the child, this repression and growth of neglect, misunderstood emotions superimposed, the child can not withstand it will collapse.
Experts say that everyone has to be the master of his own life, although it is not easy, but through learning can be improved. Raising a child should be accompanied efficiently, give him encouragement, give him spiritual strength and let him know what love is. We would like to advise all parents to seize the various key stages of their children's development in order to get twice the result with half the effort.
A word to parents at all stages: it is never too late to start.
Mental health screenings on campus are essential
As the main activity place for young people, schools have an inherent advantage in the prevention and treatment of students' mental health problems. Schools can apply the multimodal stress analysis system to set up campus mental health assessment rooms to screen and analyze students' mental health status. Such an assessment can be conducted one-on-one, and moreover, multiple people can be assessed at the same time through intelligent workstations. As the mental health assessment is open to all students, there is no concern about "stigmatization", and the efficiency and coverage of the assessment can be improved to ensure that every student receives timely mental health attention.
The Multimodal Stress Analysis System is a comprehensive and systematic psychological assessment for students using various technical means such as integrated comprehensive scale, EEG analysis and heart rate variability assessment. This kind of assessment is in the form of "human-computer interaction", which is more interesting and scientific for students, and can reduce the pressure of students to accept mental health assessment and improve the compliance of mental health assessment.
Based on the results of the campus mental health assessment, schools can establish a closer communication mechanism with parents to provide comprehensive psychological support for students, so that every child can grow up in love and care.
Conclusion
Love, always gives us reminders:
A bad day is not a bad life Unhappy past can't stop us from embracing tomorrow's happiness Be kind to those around you and remember to cherish and love yourself too!
Because you are such a special being, give yourself enough trust and keep hope whenever you can, and the day will be much brighter!